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Day 6: 21 Day Racial Equity Habit Building Challenge

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Reading these examples of microagressions or this page of self-posted microaggressions does it change your perception at all from yesterday?  Would you be comfortable pointing out a microaggression to you friends or family?  Do you know of examples of things you might have said that might have been a microaggression?  

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After reading through the

After reading through the examples of microaggressions, it struck me that I have committed them, while thinking that I was showing "support" or "interest." For example: asking someone of color with even a hint of an accent where she or he is "from." I will try to be much more aware now of treating people I meet with full respect, withholding any kind of judgment, positive or negative.

Racism and other forms of discrimination are so deeply embedded in some of our social structures and individual psyches that (in addition to changing the structures themselves) it will take countless interventions to point out microaggressions and "educate" their perpetrators (including myself).

Will

moving forward

When I read Kim's example yesterday I realized how difficult microaggressions can be to see and catch asI am not even sure I would have noticed what Kim was able to see. I thought about the idea of bringing awareness to the woman to what she may have inadvertently assumed because of someone's identity. How would she have responded? Thinking about how the man appeared unphased and wondered if it was because he himself didn't notice it or because he is used to it and it has just moved below the threshold of things he reacts to anymore.

In reading Jeff's comments yesterday, it made me think of guilt and shame. We reflect on our lives but it is hard to go back and look at things we did before we were informed and there is not much value in that except maybe to realize a pattern of language or action. However, most likely the only way to see it is as you interact every day with new people. There is no value in guilt only in realization, awareness, and compassion both for yourself and others. We have to be kind to ourselves to be kind to others otherwise I think it can feel like a dark burden full of shame.

Here we are in some of the craziest of times. People unable to hear each other and talk about where we are and what we believe on all sides of every argument. Everyone is saying no hate and then turning around and calling each other names for their beliefs. The anger everywhere is palpable. To me I feel like the skill of listening to people with differences and hearing and seeing them is a lost art right now. I do not know if I would call it microaggressions but it is born from the same place, an inability to see the systemic racism and bias that got us all here.

All of this can feel very hard. I do believe that the pain has the opportunity to allow us to feel more compassion and connection with the people and communities around us if we are not too afraid to acknowledge our privilege.

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