An old friend told me he felt like something was missing in his life. He talked about filling a void. He took a new job thinking that would solve it. But the void was still there. He talked about his lack of mindfulness, his habit of over-eating, and the way he always feels like having the TV on to fill the silence.
This is easy to forget. Today it looks like structure and ferocity. Tomorrow it may look soft and vulnerable. It may look like what naturally arises, but it may also be the opposing force to what seems to naturally arise. This is because what seems natural is often a habitual way of being or thinking. How well you know your mind is directly related to how easily you can access wisdom in the moment.